Nearly a month ago,a life changing incident took place. It was a pleasant Sunday evening, a phone call dumbstruck me. it was a call from my maternal aunt & from her voice it was very evident that something was drastically wrong. So i tried to maintain calm & rushed to the hospital. When i reached there,I got the news that shook the ground beneath me as if an earthquake of 9.0 on Richter scale had taken place.the news was that my uncle was no more. he was the victim of cardiac arrest .
In a fraction of second all the events in my life flash backed .The traffic of my emotions was so much so that i was not able to talk, cry, move and was still as a hard rock. But i was taken aback to reality as i had to take care of my mom and my aunt as these many people were only present at that moment.also, it was my job to convey this news to the friends and family as both my mom and aunt were not able to gather enough courage to do this job.amidst heavy emotions of mine. It was me who conveyed this sad news to everyone courageously. never in my mind i had thought that i would be doing such a thing ever in my life of conveying the demise news of my very much beloved person in my life
Everything was over in a matter of few minutes.This event traumatised me, tears were just the vent to my uncontrollable emotions & pain for the next two days....
This was the second turning point in my life. It is a matter of coincidence that the first turning point of my life was caused by the same person.In the first case he transformed me from a 'Dumb,inactive & failure' child to a 'Topper,active child in my school. And now, this event changed my childish & somewhat carefree person to a matured person. This taught me a important lesson in my life that "Nothing in this world is permanent".When a person is born, he just gets a chance to live his years & finally bids a "sayonara" to this world. So one must try an make few years joyful &try and make as many people happy because at the end we take nothing with us its just the 'sweet memories' that we leave behind in minds of people so why not try and give only good memories . People must remember you as a good person & a person whose absence is always felt for his goodness.
These days were the most stressful days of my life because it is very difficult for a daughter to forget her father and yes he was my second father. Right from my birth until his last breath he always loved me as his daughter.Now i feel that to make his soul happy its my duty to look upon my very sweet & caring aunt as she has also cared for me & nurtured me from my childhood until now.
Nearly a month has passed & after such a long time I have accepted the harsh reality & one thing is very clear in my mind now that however rich,poor ,good ,bad etc you cannot escape "death" as it is the only surest thing in life to happen.I also think that "Death" has made man's life wonderful because one knows that he is just a tenant in this world so he tries to multiply his joys by spreading it to all & divides the sorrow by facing them courageously.
But one thing is also true that a person lives his stipulated years but people who are dependent on him must go on just to make the person's soul happier & rest in peace...Hence we say that "THE SHOW MUST GO ON"
I dedicate this blog to my beloved mama & i pray to god that may his soul rest in peace."I will always miss you a lot "MAMA"
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Sunday, January 17, 2010
DONT WORRY BE HAPPY!!
The year 2010 started off with a bang...As in many of the engineering colleges this marked the beginning of placement season. Engineering students gearing up for the aptitude test and Interview is a very common scene in every Engg college..So was the case with my college.It was 7th Jan when a company arrived at our campus and nearly entire college turned up.This was a very rare sight of such a no. turning up and very excited to appear for the exam which normally is not the case. The auditorium was full and all eagerly waiting for the Company's presentation to finish and exam to commence soon.There was a hustle and bustle among the students.The students could be well divided between sections like those appearing for GRE,CAT,BOTH and some just dying to get a placement.There was this common agreement between the students not appearing for CAT or GRE that the ones appearing for these exams should not sit for the placements which obviously is very wrong as these people do equally have the right to sit for the placements(everyone would like to have security in their carrer).So it was just an arguement going on between students prior to aptitude test but this arguement never resolved as both the parties thought that they are right on their views....
Finally the exam started and the students who were very much argueing a while ago were all put in the same boat.Everyone now tried to give his/her best shot to clear the exam.After the aptitude test and before the announcement of the results is the time where nearly everybody are very nervous and tensed but there are a few who are in "dont care" condition.This time gap is truly a testing time for each one who appeared the exam.Finally the clock strucks and the results are out,there is a silence in auditorium while results are announced.After the results there was a sense of satisfaction on the faces of students who cleared the exam and a feeling of frustation amongst the ones who didn't manage to clear the exam. I was also one among who could nt clear.At that moment it was very difficult to digest this failure. I felt very dejected and sad.But i tried to cheer up my friends who cleared written exam and now waiting for interview.
This was the first time in my life i was facing failure and which was not a gr8 feeling. There was a strong fight with myself to come out of this and accept the fact. These are the testing times in your life when you feel very dejected and lonely and a person who develops the knack of handling such pressure situation can only succeed in his/her life.During such situations you could rightly figure out the true friends. Many of my friends called me up but only a few were actually worried about my condition.I am glad that such a situation arised in my life which was actually helpful in separating the true friends from the others.My true friends helped me out in fighting this situation and the rest were least bothered.Finally after two days i managed to clear both the written test and the interview and i was quite happy with that.......
But when i saw the list of people who didnt even manage to clear this one,made me sad again.To my suprise the people who failed in their second attempt were not as tensed and hyper even they are the ones who actually need job as they have responsibilities which i dont have and even then they managed to be happy This taught me a lesson which i will remember for my life and that was "Accepting the failure with happiness will reduce your sorrow of failure" I hope these people will get the job soon....
So people what i think is when a sad thing happens to you always beleive that there is a better thing waiting for you in future.......JUST DONT WORRY BE HAPPY!!
Finally the exam started and the students who were very much argueing a while ago were all put in the same boat.Everyone now tried to give his/her best shot to clear the exam.After the aptitude test and before the announcement of the results is the time where nearly everybody are very nervous and tensed but there are a few who are in "dont care" condition.This time gap is truly a testing time for each one who appeared the exam.Finally the clock strucks and the results are out,there is a silence in auditorium while results are announced.After the results there was a sense of satisfaction on the faces of students who cleared the exam and a feeling of frustation amongst the ones who didn't manage to clear the exam. I was also one among who could nt clear.At that moment it was very difficult to digest this failure. I felt very dejected and sad.But i tried to cheer up my friends who cleared written exam and now waiting for interview.
This was the first time in my life i was facing failure and which was not a gr8 feeling. There was a strong fight with myself to come out of this and accept the fact. These are the testing times in your life when you feel very dejected and lonely and a person who develops the knack of handling such pressure situation can only succeed in his/her life.During such situations you could rightly figure out the true friends. Many of my friends called me up but only a few were actually worried about my condition.I am glad that such a situation arised in my life which was actually helpful in separating the true friends from the others.My true friends helped me out in fighting this situation and the rest were least bothered.Finally after two days i managed to clear both the written test and the interview and i was quite happy with that.......
But when i saw the list of people who didnt even manage to clear this one,made me sad again.To my suprise the people who failed in their second attempt were not as tensed and hyper even they are the ones who actually need job as they have responsibilities which i dont have and even then they managed to be happy This taught me a lesson which i will remember for my life and that was "Accepting the failure with happiness will reduce your sorrow of failure" I hope these people will get the job soon....
So people what i think is when a sad thing happens to you always beleive that there is a better thing waiting for you in future.......JUST DONT WORRY BE HAPPY!!
Friday, December 11, 2009
A Second Chance!!!
IT is not that everyone in life gets a second chance.You can very well ask the importance of the second chance who has just survived a fatal accident,who has survived after a natural calamity like floods,quakes etc or simply ask a player who has been back into the side after being dropped from playing at the first instance
In life we do get many chances it entirely depends on us on how do we utilise it to make a better life out of it.I am writing this because i have seen such cases who utilized this glirious opportunity & fought back to regain whatever they had lost.These are real life stories not just written for the sake of glorifying the importance of a 2nd chance.
First story is of my very own friend younger to me by a year or so.This frnd of mine was not a bright kid in his schooling life nor he was great at studies.he use to just manage to pass.But in 10th std he failed in two subjects as it in its very difficult to face people after failing in SSC the very HYPED examination in our society.So he was quite depressed by the but as i say there are 2nd chances so he managed to take control of one of them.He passed out boards and in the mean time he got to know himself as in his areas of inerest and he came to a conclusion taht he would make his career in COOKING.And as decided he went into hotel management and now he's cruising into success as he enjoyed his work.the other day when i met him i saw a completely different personality with immense Enthusiasm,Confidence &Energy.Such inspiring ws his fight..
The second story is of one of our family accquaintances.A person very good at heart,having lots of friends and a sort of HAPPY GO LUCKY person who enjoyed holidaying and partying with friends and in short a very happy man.But one incident changed his life.He was a Banker and once he was a guaranter for helping his friend in getting a loan of 20lakhs.But this friend of his was not able to repay the loan and now the burden of 20 lakhs came on this middle class person who had hardly expected this from his friend>he was completely destroyed because his friend defied him and secondly coz of the financial burden.So he restored to ALCOHOL to fight his problem inspite of the fact that he was diabetic and once operated.At this point no friend of his came to his rescue the same friends who njoyed his free parties showed a back to him. He was all alone but now his family came to his rescue but by this time he had lost all his belongings even his hard earned house.But then he himself decided to spring up in life and as i always say there is always a 2nd chance.In his life only good thing happened was his family supported him and gave him the confidence that he can regain whatever he lost.As he had his job on so 1st thing he did was he left alcohol secondly he left all his greedy friends and lived a completely different life than his previous one After such sacrifices he sprang back to a good life and now he's again settled in life in his own house and he learned to differentiate between a greedy friend and a real friend.Such was his fight truly emotional yet inspiring
Thus from the above to incidences its clear that life gives us chances the only thing we must do is identify them and make good use of it.Therefore my friends never be dishearten by failure because there is always A SECOND CHANCE
In life we do get many chances it entirely depends on us on how do we utilise it to make a better life out of it.I am writing this because i have seen such cases who utilized this glirious opportunity & fought back to regain whatever they had lost.These are real life stories not just written for the sake of glorifying the importance of a 2nd chance.
First story is of my very own friend younger to me by a year or so.This frnd of mine was not a bright kid in his schooling life nor he was great at studies.he use to just manage to pass.But in 10th std he failed in two subjects as it in its very difficult to face people after failing in SSC the very HYPED examination in our society.So he was quite depressed by the but as i say there are 2nd chances so he managed to take control of one of them.He passed out boards and in the mean time he got to know himself as in his areas of inerest and he came to a conclusion taht he would make his career in COOKING.And as decided he went into hotel management and now he's cruising into success as he enjoyed his work.the other day when i met him i saw a completely different personality with immense Enthusiasm,Confidence &Energy.Such inspiring ws his fight..
The second story is of one of our family accquaintances.A person very good at heart,having lots of friends and a sort of HAPPY GO LUCKY person who enjoyed holidaying and partying with friends and in short a very happy man.But one incident changed his life.He was a Banker and once he was a guaranter for helping his friend in getting a loan of 20lakhs.But this friend of his was not able to repay the loan and now the burden of 20 lakhs came on this middle class person who had hardly expected this from his friend>he was completely destroyed because his friend defied him and secondly coz of the financial burden.So he restored to ALCOHOL to fight his problem inspite of the fact that he was diabetic and once operated.At this point no friend of his came to his rescue the same friends who njoyed his free parties showed a back to him. He was all alone but now his family came to his rescue but by this time he had lost all his belongings even his hard earned house.But then he himself decided to spring up in life and as i always say there is always a 2nd chance.In his life only good thing happened was his family supported him and gave him the confidence that he can regain whatever he lost.As he had his job on so 1st thing he did was he left alcohol secondly he left all his greedy friends and lived a completely different life than his previous one After such sacrifices he sprang back to a good life and now he's again settled in life in his own house and he learned to differentiate between a greedy friend and a real friend.Such was his fight truly emotional yet inspiring
Thus from the above to incidences its clear that life gives us chances the only thing we must do is identify them and make good use of it.Therefore my friends never be dishearten by failure because there is always A SECOND CHANCE
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Festival of lights!!!
Here comes diwali with a bang and all of us definitely busy with the celebrations....
its a festival of lights in the true sense.the preparations for diwali begins atleast 15 days b4 there is a hustle and bustle all around people are happy and everyone enjoy it with true joy...
this festival touches each and every strata of the society and the way of celebration is some wat similar in every class of the society but the difference lies in the quantity of celebration as a poor cant effort to glow a big diya wic consumes a lot of oil as bt he glows the smaller diya..bt celebrates diwali...
sometimes i wonder that our Indian tradition has bestowed on us such a rich heritage and culture that v shud b thankful to our ancestors.each and every festival in our calender has some or the other reason in it and these festivals act as the bonding element btwn the ppl. as its during these festivals only v all come together to njoy and this imbibes in us a sense of social commitment and social awareness...Festivals acts as a tonic for our mental health. One needs exercise to maintain our physical health bt festivals help us maintanin the mental health...
Celebrating diwali also has many reasons as diwali comes in the month wen winter begins and our body undergoes a change in enviornment so v rightly eat all those sweets and heavy food items to compensate this change..there is a tradition of giving sweets to neighbours, relatives, frnds etc this builds up the society as in our daily life v r so busy that v hardly care abt who lives next door bt durin festivals only it happens that v interact much..we lit diyas and lanterns this is the way of filling lights in the darkness this darkness is the darkness of our ignorance thus it gives the message of removing ignorance frm our lives...thus each and every deed wic v do in diwali has some reasons
BUT we must not forget the child labour involved in making of our crackers this kills many of the children as they r involved in it as the labour is cheap..v must not forget that there is a problem of global warming so v must try n lit less crackers to reduce pollution so v can gift this tradition to future generation..v must try and do good deeds of atleast giving some of the sweets to less privileged as it wont affect much if v dont eat some bt it means a gr8 deal for the underprivileged...thus v must njoy the joy of giving during this diwali...we must not forget that just lightening up the diyas and lanterns v cannot remove darkness frm the lives of underprivileged instead it is by the good deeds of sharing our joy with them...
So this diwali v must come together for a cause of removing darkness frm the life of less fortunate so that v can say that diwali in true sense a festival of lights!!!!!
its a festival of lights in the true sense.the preparations for diwali begins atleast 15 days b4 there is a hustle and bustle all around people are happy and everyone enjoy it with true joy...
this festival touches each and every strata of the society and the way of celebration is some wat similar in every class of the society but the difference lies in the quantity of celebration as a poor cant effort to glow a big diya wic consumes a lot of oil as bt he glows the smaller diya..bt celebrates diwali...
sometimes i wonder that our Indian tradition has bestowed on us such a rich heritage and culture that v shud b thankful to our ancestors.each and every festival in our calender has some or the other reason in it and these festivals act as the bonding element btwn the ppl. as its during these festivals only v all come together to njoy and this imbibes in us a sense of social commitment and social awareness...Festivals acts as a tonic for our mental health. One needs exercise to maintain our physical health bt festivals help us maintanin the mental health...
Celebrating diwali also has many reasons as diwali comes in the month wen winter begins and our body undergoes a change in enviornment so v rightly eat all those sweets and heavy food items to compensate this change..there is a tradition of giving sweets to neighbours, relatives, frnds etc this builds up the society as in our daily life v r so busy that v hardly care abt who lives next door bt durin festivals only it happens that v interact much..we lit diyas and lanterns this is the way of filling lights in the darkness this darkness is the darkness of our ignorance thus it gives the message of removing ignorance frm our lives...thus each and every deed wic v do in diwali has some reasons
BUT we must not forget the child labour involved in making of our crackers this kills many of the children as they r involved in it as the labour is cheap..v must not forget that there is a problem of global warming so v must try n lit less crackers to reduce pollution so v can gift this tradition to future generation..v must try and do good deeds of atleast giving some of the sweets to less privileged as it wont affect much if v dont eat some bt it means a gr8 deal for the underprivileged...thus v must njoy the joy of giving during this diwali...we must not forget that just lightening up the diyas and lanterns v cannot remove darkness frm the lives of underprivileged instead it is by the good deeds of sharing our joy with them...
So this diwali v must come together for a cause of removing darkness frm the life of less fortunate so that v can say that diwali in true sense a festival of lights!!!!!
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
experience......a gr8 teacher!!!
Recently i had been to pune for a short trip i cant call it as a trip but it was a survey trip to see how is the atmosphere in pune for UPSC preperation. I and 2 of my friends had been there. The moment we stepped into pune station there were many auto rikshawala's hovering along the people who were arriving and they were charging a 10 rs distance to around 100rs which was ridiculous.we were nt fooled as v had this frnd of us who is living there so she is aware of this so called "bhamte's"(local name for rikshawalas in pune). so this was the welcome to us....
That day we were to live at our friend's hostel to experience the hostel life 1st we were quite excited about it but soon our excitement decayed exponentially.... we were there at her place this room of her was shared by 4 ppl..but as it is a new hostel built in her locality it was clean bt v visited the one's which lacked even basic neccesities like water..it was terrible to see as how do ppl live in a completely strange area just because they want to fullfill their dreams or some do live as htey dont hav any option...at the hostel the life is totally independent..U hav to do ur daily chores right from making ur 1st cup of tea of the day.then from washing clothes by self and in the afternoon waiting for the "dabbawala" to bring some food to eat..then study n then again the same routine..also v need to be quite alert as its not our home afterall..also if take a situation that v were to live at our home there v r quite protected and v do not hav to worry about our daily chores..also v dont hav to worry about our "budget"as in case of hostel life...but there are some positives attributed to hostel life is that v become independent..v can help room partner very well as v kno that v can also b in dat situation some day so a strong bond develops..the most importanmt thing that v hav is the "experience" of knowing the world so closely that in every walk of our life this experience becomes our good guide..and it shows us the other side of life...so that v can bcum a fine individual some fine day..thus always remember "experience is definitely a gr88 teacher"
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Independence day celebrations.....
15th aug 2009, we celebrated our 62nd Independence day...its a day which is remembered by every Indian..And its a day to salute our national heros who laid their lives for our freedom..Its a day which is to be celebrated as our national festival..In each and every corner of our motherland this festival is celebrated with immense joy and pride.Its on this day that we unfurl our tricolour as a sign that we the people of India are the rulers of our country and that the soveriegnty of our State is intact with us..this day is our national holiday...so on and so forth....this is the standardised speech which we hear every Independence Day the only difference is the no of yr which v r celebrating it....
It is very "disheartning" to see the current celebrations of our national festival..On this Independence Day i just came to experience the grave reality as to how v Indians salute our nation on this day.this yr i had been at my aunt's place to celebrate the independence day.my aunt's place is a residential complex wherein there are about 200 flats and about 500 people residing there.On the eve of this day housing committe called the residents of the locality to take part in the I'day celebrations.And to my surprise only 50 people turned up for the celebration which means only 10% of ppl came to honour their nation.In his famous I'day speech by our 1st PM of independent India said" At the stroke of the midnight hour, when the world sleeps, India will awake to life and freedom. A moment comes, which comes but rarely in history, when we step out from the old to the new, when an age ends and when the soul of a nation, long suppressed, finds utterance.... We end today a period of ill fortune, and India discovers herself again.....Truly v did discover a new era on that very epic day........
The time has now come to rediscover ourselves...when 62yrs back on the same day India rose from the deep sleep now we are just sleeping when v are to pay a tribute to our nation...The very practical reason for this negligence is that 15th aug is a national holiday so everyone is at home also if this day comes near to a weekend then its a treat to many as they get a long vacation where they can enjoy a long outing with their families unnoticing the fact that these responsible parents must stay back n nuture the feeling of national pride in the hearts of their children also they must make them aware of the fact that the nation which they are residing is free because of the sacrifices made by our national heros..A feeling of patriotism must be developed in them as they are the "torch bearers" of our country in the near future.Every Indian must celebrate this day with pride and pay a tribute to their nation and to make this possible i guess that this day v should not be given "national holiday" Instead offices,schools,colleges,and various must be open this day just to celebrate this very wonderful day atleast half day should be made "mandatory"..because if a particular thing is not made mandatory we tend to take it for "Granted" and i just feel that this Day should not be taken for granted..So we as Indians must rise for this occasion and try and make this National Festival to live upto its name and not just be enjoyed as any other "holiday"...its just essential to be aware of this fact that we hav fought for our freedom and this fight should not wither away from the minds of the new generation and as "responsible citizens " of free India we as a nation should stand for this cause......JAI HIND!!!
It is very "disheartning" to see the current celebrations of our national festival..On this Independence Day i just came to experience the grave reality as to how v Indians salute our nation on this day.this yr i had been at my aunt's place to celebrate the independence day.my aunt's place is a residential complex wherein there are about 200 flats and about 500 people residing there.On the eve of this day housing committe called the residents of the locality to take part in the I'day celebrations.And to my surprise only 50 people turned up for the celebration which means only 10% of ppl came to honour their nation.In his famous I'day speech by our 1st PM of independent India said" At the stroke of the midnight hour, when the world sleeps, India will awake to life and freedom. A moment comes, which comes but rarely in history, when we step out from the old to the new, when an age ends and when the soul of a nation, long suppressed, finds utterance.... We end today a period of ill fortune, and India discovers herself again.....Truly v did discover a new era on that very epic day........
The time has now come to rediscover ourselves...when 62yrs back on the same day India rose from the deep sleep now we are just sleeping when v are to pay a tribute to our nation...The very practical reason for this negligence is that 15th aug is a national holiday so everyone is at home also if this day comes near to a weekend then its a treat to many as they get a long vacation where they can enjoy a long outing with their families unnoticing the fact that these responsible parents must stay back n nuture the feeling of national pride in the hearts of their children also they must make them aware of the fact that the nation which they are residing is free because of the sacrifices made by our national heros..A feeling of patriotism must be developed in them as they are the "torch bearers" of our country in the near future.Every Indian must celebrate this day with pride and pay a tribute to their nation and to make this possible i guess that this day v should not be given "national holiday" Instead offices,schools,colleges,and various must be open this day just to celebrate this very wonderful day atleast half day should be made "mandatory"..because if a particular thing is not made mandatory we tend to take it for "Granted" and i just feel that this Day should not be taken for granted..So we as Indians must rise for this occasion and try and make this National Festival to live upto its name and not just be enjoyed as any other "holiday"...its just essential to be aware of this fact that we hav fought for our freedom and this fight should not wither away from the minds of the new generation and as "responsible citizens " of free India we as a nation should stand for this cause......JAI HIND!!!
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Birthday gift
Last yr My Birthday celebrations were on as they take place every year.lots of friends visited my place and i had a blast.The party was good it had cakes chocolates and all sort of junk food that we ppl always have.I had received nice Gifts and some of them very precious from my mom and dad.that day went on very smooth and just perfect.later that night i turned on my TV and saw a documentary featuring the deaths due to "malnourishment" in our country that sight of the documentary just pinched my heart.All the events of that day just past b4 my eyes that how did i celebrate my bday with havin loads of food n gifts and at da same time ppl of my country are falling prey to malnourishment n food scarcity......
That night a thought just came to my mind as to how should v ideally celebrate our Bday.. Its like u can save jus Rs.2 daily from ur spendings that u do on junk food n all sorts of wastage of vry valuable resource. After one year u would hav approx arounf Rs.750 or so.Now take that money and just find a place in your town where u can distribute Food items purchased by this amount..Or just visit an Orphanage and distribute the snacks to them and see the happiness on the faces of those children havin satisfied by your just a small deed of visiting them n givin them good food to them..Now the feeling of making those children happy is i biggest gift that u can give to yourself on your birthday...
India with a population of about 113crores so on each day there ll b thousands who ll b celebrating their bdays if 50% of them decide to celebrate their bday in this fashion i guess then the no. of deaths occuring due to malnourishment would reduce by atleast 10%...
So from this yr onward i hav decided to give this BIRTHDAY GIFT to myself and celebrate the bday in this fashion.So guys n gals just giv it a thought that our vry small deed can help changing life of many...............
That night a thought just came to my mind as to how should v ideally celebrate our Bday.. Its like u can save jus Rs.2 daily from ur spendings that u do on junk food n all sorts of wastage of vry valuable resource. After one year u would hav approx arounf Rs.750 or so.Now take that money and just find a place in your town where u can distribute Food items purchased by this amount..Or just visit an Orphanage and distribute the snacks to them and see the happiness on the faces of those children havin satisfied by your just a small deed of visiting them n givin them good food to them..Now the feeling of making those children happy is i biggest gift that u can give to yourself on your birthday...
India with a population of about 113crores so on each day there ll b thousands who ll b celebrating their bdays if 50% of them decide to celebrate their bday in this fashion i guess then the no. of deaths occuring due to malnourishment would reduce by atleast 10%...
So from this yr onward i hav decided to give this BIRTHDAY GIFT to myself and celebrate the bday in this fashion.So guys n gals just giv it a thought that our vry small deed can help changing life of many...............
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